Flying dishes, insults, and even things that don't necessarily go that far: you've probably already experienced tension in your relationship. Arguments are inevitable sooner or later. They're often constructive, but be careful to protect your children because our little ones often have their ears open. And for them, seeing Mom and Dad argue is always a source of anxiety.
Above all, we, as parents, must never forget that we are their absolute role models. Hence the importance of reflecting a healthy and positive image of the family unit. Often after an argument, our nerves are raw, and we sometimes tend to put our partner down in front of our children. These hurtful and particularly toxic words will also resonate with them because, in their eyes, both parents are equally important. Needless to say, our children aren't there to arbitrate our conflicts, so there's no point in trying to make them take sides or asking them to choose a side. These problems often arise during divorce proceedings. It's precisely these behaviors that make children extremely sensitive and destabilize them, especially since their understanding of family has just been shattered by their parents' separation!
Conversely, experts recommend not trying to shield children at all costs. If they overhear an argument, explain that it happens in every family and that you and your spouse will try to find a solution. This way, your children will no longer fear confrontations and will understand the importance of communication: a valuable life lesson!
 Nicolas BOURBOIN & Alain MOREAU
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21/03/2021 | 
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